Thursday, January 1, 2015

The Episcopal Church Was Forgiving or Felony Stupid about the Addicted Bishop?


http://www.baltimoresun.com/news/maryland/baltimore-city/north-baltimore/bs-md-bishop-20141230-story.html

Before being elevated to a position as a high-ranking bishop, Heather Elizabeth Cook was subjected to an extensive background check and psychological investigation regarding a 2010 drunken-driving incident, the Episcopal Diocese of Maryland said Tuesday.
"One of the core values of the Christian faith is forgiveness. We cannot preach forgiveness without practicing forgiveness and offering people opportunity for redemption," the diocese said in a statement about the search process for an elected bishop.


Cook — who in September became Maryland's bishop suffragan, the No. 2 leader of the diocese — was driving the car involved in Saturday's fatal crash on Roland Avenue. Bicyclist Thomas Palermo, 41, a married father of two, died of his injuries.
No charges have been filed in connection with the afternoon crash in North Baltimore, and police said an investigation was in its early stages.
"We, too are all filled with questions for which there are still no answers, and we are all filled with anger, bitterness, pain and tears," the diocese said in its statement. "Our thoughts and prayers right now are with Mr. Palermo, his family and friends, and the bicycling community. And, we continue to pray for Bishop Cook in this time of her tremendous grief and sorrow."


Cook, who has spent 20 years as an Episcopal priest, pleaded guilty in 2010 to driving under the influence of alcohol in Caroline County. She registered 0.27 percent on a blood-alcohol test — more than three times the legal limit in Maryland — after that incident.
The church said in its statement, "After extensive discussion and discernment about the [2010] incident, and after further investigation, including extensive background check and psychological investigation, it was determined that this one mistake should not bar her for consideration as a leader."
Cook received probation before judgment and was ordered to pay a $300 fine, according to records.


Caroline County District Court records show Cook was arrested after police saw her driving under the speed limit on the shoulder of the road on a shredded tire at 2 a.m. The officer who pulled her over reported that the car smelled of burning rubber and alcohol, and he saw vomit on her shirt.
A bottle of wine, a fifth of Irish whiskey and two baggies were inside the car, police said. On the passenger seat in plain view was a "metal smoking device." She was charged with possession of marijuana, but those charges were later dropped.
After Saturday's crash, Cook initially drove away from the scene but returned a short time later, according to the diocese. Another bicyclist followed her to a gated apartment complex.
Cook has been placed on administrative leave, according to church officials.
She has had close ties to the Episcopal Church since childhood.


Her father, the late Rev. Halsey M. Cook, became the rector of Old St. Paul's, one of the nation's oldest and most prestigious Episcopal churches, in 1961. Sixteen years later, the church's core value about forgiveness helped him publicly confront his alcohol addiction.
At a service in May 1977, he told parishioners that he is a "sheep, and this place and you people have often shepherded me." He further said, "I am an alcoholic."
The then-49-year-old told worshippers he would enter a Bel Air treatment center for a month, The Baltimore Sun reported in an article at the time about the service and his efforts to get help.


Church members had already supported him when he spent a month in a Minnesota hospital, he noted. "I was embarrassed for anybody in Baltimore to know," he explained back then, "so I snuck off quietly 1,400 miles away."
Halsey Cook, who died in 1989, served as rector at Old St. Paul's, at Charles and Saratoga streets, for 20 years. When he left to pursue a new career in business, he recalled that one of the highlights of his tenure was his family's move in 1964 — from a rectory in Guilford to the "Old Rectory" on Charles Street, which was first occupied by a St. Paul's minister in 1791.
He used his position to help others battle addictions. Upon his death, The Sun reported: "One of the causes for which he was a dedicated spokesman and national leader within the Episcopal Church was a better understanding of and treatment of alcoholism in the ministry."
As the crash investigation continued, area bicyclists made plans to honor Palermo.
Bikemore Inc., which promotes biking in Baltimore, said it would hold a memorial ride and vigil on New Year's Day. The group has asked riders to meet at 3:30 p.m. at Bishop Square Park, at North Charles Street and East University Parkway. The park is near the Episcopal Cathedral of the Incarnation.
After a moment of silence, riders will pedal to the crash scene; nonriders can meet at that location, the organization said. The group will then celebrate Palermo's life at Gallery 788 and De Kleine Duivel in Hampden.
Baltimore Sun reporter Jacques Kelly and researcher Paul McCardell contributed to this article.
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Zak Stowe's Friend from Martin Luther College - WELS.
Sam Birner To Become "Amber Noel Birner" -
And Says to Zak Stowe, "I Caught Your Gay."







WELS GLBTQ and Allies on Facebook



I am transgender and once this status is a couple of days old I will be changing my name on here to Amber Noel Birner.
I know it’s a confusing thing for some people, and most of you probably have never talked to a trans person. So, first of all, please feel free to ask me questions to help you understand, I’m always open to educating people 
I know people tend to skip over statuses if they don’t look interesting, so I wanted to make the point very clear and the first thing seen, and now for explanation.

I have been hiding for far too long in my life. Not just from all of you, but from myself. The feelings have always been there. I can recall feelings all the way back to 5 years old. I have had a lot of grief over the issues. I have faced harassment and depression because of them. I have been driven to the brink of suicide multiple times, both in high school and in college. And finally, I realized that if I don’t do something about the feelings, they will literally kill me.

I have never felt aligned with my gender, I have always felt uncomfortable in my body. I never knew quite why, but I just did not ever like what I saw in the mirror. It horrified me every day. I would spend nights lying awake, crying, and just self-loathing over the thoughts. It wasn’t a “gay phase” or that I’m just gay. This is nothing to do with my sexuality, this is to do with me. And it took me until a year and a half ago to finally admit to myself what was going on.

Since I have accepted this, things have improved significantly. Just the admittance itself gave me great relief and confidence. When I first came to terms with it I started exercising, I was sleeping better and more “on schedule” and was generally happier. I have had a boyfriend for the past year who has supported me every step of the way in this journey. And now, exactly 13 weeks ago, I began hormone replacement therapy so my body will produce less testosterone and run more on estrogen and progesterone. Never have I felt more like myself. It is the happiest, most confident, and just generally most content with myself I have ever felt. It was like something clicked in my brain, and it all made way more sense.

And so, it is with that that I tell you I will no longer be lying to you all, or to myself, about who I am. I will change my name on here to Amber Noel Birner. I am not a confused man, or a gay man, or someone afraid to be gay, I am not a man becoming a woman or pretending to be a woman. I have always been a woman. The only difference now is that I am one that is finally accepting who she is.

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Requests from Sam Birner, sent to Ichabod








  • 35 people like this.
  • Sam Birner Also, people I tagged in this, I tagged you because you all are just a few of the amazing support I've had this past year, and I can't thank you enough for that 
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  • Aaron Pretzer You're welcome! 
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  • Segun David Delu So i only have two questions. One why did u decide to have noel be ur middle name? And two does this mean ur no longer going to be in the WELS?
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  • Sam Birner 1. I just like how it sounds  Like, honestly, that's literally the only reason, it just sounds nice
    2. Correct
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  • Segun David Delu Very well then..... Actually now i have a follow up question. Do u still consider urself a believer in Christ?
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  • Zachary Bambach I'm so happy for you!!!
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  • Segun David Delu Well. Ok then. I wish u the best! I hope u find more peace in ur life with this decision. 
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  • Laura Natalie Hogg Okay, now I'm all teary-eyed. I'm so incredibly proud of you, Amber, and it's a privilege to know you. 
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  • Sam Birner If I get bigger boobs than you I'm gonna have back problems O.O
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  • Scott Cooper I AM SO PROUD OF YOU!!!!! Nothing in the world can be better than being who you truly are. You are a beautiful person, and loved by many. Never ever forget that
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  • Nathaniel Birner Seriously?! Not Samantha?!
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  • Sam Birner Haha, sorry to disappoint 
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  • Sam Birner But really though, the reason I didn't go with "Samantha" is because "Sam" is still kinda really tied to "guy me" which was making it harder to move on from
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  • Nathaniel Birner Makes sense
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  • Vaun Niklaus Christiansen hell yeah buddy 
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  • Ryan Palone Very nicely spoken! I wish I could be so eliquent in my speeches!  you know im rooting for you hun!  i pretty much abandoned this account for my alt one..tho i should probably come out on this one too..
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  • Joshua Hendricks We used to talk a lot more than we do now Amber, but I still stand with you.
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  • Celia Eats Tacos I dont know you, but I know a friend of yours and I just wanted to say YAY! Good for you, Amber. You deserve happiness and there will be support for you every step of the way!
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  • Celia Eats Tacos Oops. tagged wrong. Haha
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  • Sam Birner Gah, Everyone's gonna make me cry! My boyfriend's sitting here with me watching the comments come in and I'm like "Ahhhhhh "
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  • Rick Scharf I have seen you grow up and I think it's hard for a lot of people to understand. I also know people couldn't understand my decisions all the time either. I think we all spend so much time trying to fit in and do what other people think we should do. At some point you lose yourself. Life is a great struggle and especially when you struggle with yourself. Im just glad you have found and accepted who you are. God still loves you and so do your friends and family.
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  • Sam Birner And a bunch of people I don't or barely know and people I haven't talked to since gradeschool! Ahhhh! Everyone's so awesome!
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  • Jordan Blythe Proud of you my friend
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  • Sandy Lane Sam, as long as you are honest with yourself and true to God that's all that matters. We all have different paths to take and different journeys to go on and, imo, shouldn't judge each other on the steps that are taken. They are your steps, and yours alone, and only you and God know what's best.  As an accepting friend of yours for a few years now I wish you all the best and peace.
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  • Celia Eats Tacos Oh my god. I want to cry. I see all of these REAL Christians being accepting and honoring your choices brings me peace. I am so freaking happy. You are all amazing. With all this Justice for Leelah Alcorn talk, it makes me so happy to see so many positive people. Please keep loving each other, because all you have is each other. Stuff goes away, but people stay. Kudos.
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  • Kaitlyn Lavaun Bannister THAT'S MY GIRL!!! I'll love you no matter what. And you'll always be the same person I went to highschool with. Your gender won't change how much i love you as a person. And i'll be here if you need me. I am so proud of you for being true to yourself.
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